We live and breathe relationships. I’m not talking about romantic relationships alone; I’m talking about friendships, job relations, acquaintance relationships, even your relationship with your ex!
The way we relate with people is very important and it’s often a very important bridge between gaining and loosing opportunities! Everyone jokes that relationships have become the new currency of this generation and truthfully, I couldn’t agree more.
I hope these 6 tips help you to form more stable and meaningful relationships.
‘You cant give what you don’t have’ - God spoke these words to me last year. He told me that I cant fully show love to people if I don’t fully have HIS love in me. He told me I couldn’t influence people to do the right thing if I hadn’t yet learnt how to act right from Him.
You cant be effective in forming true, pure and whole relationships if you don’t have what it takes. And In my opinion, all it takes is one person - Jesus
The bible puts it this way in Mathew 37-40; First, love God and then, only then, can you love your neighbour!
Don’t fall - Don’t fall in love; don’t fall into friendships, choose them! God desires that we have purposeful relationships. So my advice? Let God guide your relationship decisions. Let Him choose who should be your friend or boyfriend. Life is so much easier when we get God involved in the little things. Don’t ever forget that God cares about every aspect of your life!
Speak Up - Make your wants known to the people who you care about. Tell them what you like and what you don’t like. Honest and transparent communication is paramount to the success of any good relationship.
I think It’s important to make a list of things you want in a boyfriend or girlfriend and communicate that to the person, but you have to make sure you are becoming those things too.
You’re not the Holy Spirit - When I first stared dating my boyfriend, I though I could change him! In fact, I thought God strategically placed Him in my life so I could turn His life around. I learnt very quickly that I can not do the work of the Holy spirit. God told me to let Him go; He reminded me over and over again that my boyfriend belongs to Him (not me). My only role, is to love Him. To love Him the way Christ loves me.
So I would say, if you’re sure God wants him/her to be in your life, love them, don’t try to change them.
You have to do the work - I always say its not good enough to tell people you love them, you need to show them too! Check on your relationships; invest in them, buy your best friends presents once in a while, tell them how much they mean to you from time to time.
You have to put in work to make things work sometimes!
Stay focused on God - The bible tells us to seek Gods first and everything else will be added unto us (Mathew 6: 33). I think the key word there is seek. We need to continually reach out for more of God and as we do that, He promises that He will bring the right people into our lives and take away the relationships that draw us further away from happiness and purpose.